Monthly Archives: January 2019

Sense of Self


When there is a narrow band of self identity within our electromagnetic field, we can identify strongly with other people who are strong, courageous, extrovert and being visible … which results in being in the shadows – not quite visible and striving to be seen, heard and validated.

Within groups where we strive to belong, we often become more invisible
because as empaths, who also have a narrow band of self identity, the thoughts, emotions, opinions and ways of doing business & life, becomes fused and inter-confused with our own direction, our own thoughts, our own genius.

As we evolve we interconnect deeper, wider and  interdimensionally, and at times
beyond ALL that IS.  The journey of Self is first, acknowledging our family of origin patterning’s and wounds, so they may be released and transformed in order we become more of our Soul’s path and less of our Ego’s.  Once that level of healing has occurred then we begin the journey of the next outer layer and this keeps occurring whilst ever we have the desire to transform ALL that we are within our genetic lineage and beyond.  I have identified six soul evolvement stages, we, well certainly I, have travelled to date.  Each has definite markings, identification points and certainly certain types of challenges that appear through this journey.

What I found interesting, is that the experiences of the earlier stages reappear in later stages, for example:  If we identify the issue is low self worth or lack of self identity earlier on … and over time we become more of our confident self, more extrovert, more of an achiever and results oriented and achieved … as we evolve through the fifth and six stage we are once again flung back into those states of being, this time interlinked and connected to a much higher vibration.  We are travelling through the halls of what we have come to understand as ego and duality characteristics and like a sea-saw tripping through the energy and vibration of oneness, ease and flow and serenity … then without warning the sea-saw tips and we are asked to acknowledge a new layer, a different level of our ego duality
personality.  Nothing is wrong, though many who do not understand the journey of these soul evolvement stages will judge and will be quick to anger at the disruption to their own serenity.  The point is, that we are ever evolving and we are both light and dark, we are, by the very nature as human beings, also extraordinary,
amazing, heart centered beings who have eons of wisdom within, often calcified like plague on the teeth from our life experiences.

Over the years, not being understood or heard for who I AM, I have withdrawn to calm that sea of confused energy, crisscrossed with other peoples opinions thoughts and pain so I could think, could feel my own thoughts, feelings and let go of that which was not mine.  It has been a mighty journey and one that may have been easier, if I had a strong sense of self identity – alas not, for that has been a part of the healing, the learnings, the experience I have taken.

Therefore how to do we strengthen this narrow band of self identity, this constant sea-saw of emotional states that have us doubt our abilities, our opinions, our gifts when someone comes into view that ‘appears’ to have it all together and is more than we see ourselves?

For me that is stepping back far enough that I can once again feel ME, my energy, my thoughts, my heart and reconnect deeply within myself, my heart, mind and soul … my higher intelligence all of who I AM and breath back into myself calling deeper stronger my own vibration of my own divinity and allow it to flow deeply within and down into the earth and back up the main vertical power current that runs next to the spine back through my crown and up to the Divine Essence of ALL that I AM.    The only person doubting myself is myself and so I give myself  permission to truly accept I am unique, I will always have a different opinion, ways of doing things and that is okay – what is not okay is to allow myself to feel less than because someone is stronger in their opinion than I currently am, in that moment, for if I give myself permission to acknowledge what is happening, step
back, ground and center myself I will once again hear ME … I have come back into me and I am once again home.

♥©♥ 2019 Jan-Marie Brooke 

Jan-Marie, Author of THRIVE in Business and Life and the Creator of the Freedom to BE program which releases emotional stress in 4 minutes – the Money LOVES Me program that identifies and transforms deep core money blocks, lives on the Sunshine Coast of AU the home of gorgeous beaches and beach cafe lifestyle … with her food smooching loving moggie.  An artist and author Jan-Marie has a great love of writing and creating beautiful artworks.

Inspired by and within the container of that which is  ‘The Village Project’ with Michelle Lewis

Drilling down

On the journey to find out WHO I AM if I am not my work, I am not a mother, wife, friend or business colleague … takes looking a little deeper. For that I went to my Freedom to BE program and asked to be shown what the core issue was … and it came up Lonlieness. Oh of course we become attached to your job or our identity via a job or business. We become attached to being a wife or husband, friend and so on. We do so because what we fear most is to be alone … so we avoid this by being ‘someone’

Who AM I -Without my work

Who AM I – withOUT my work, if I am no longer a Mum, Wife, Sister or even a friend or work colleague? If I am none of these things who AM I? Who do I want to BE – when I don’t have to give my time, energy & resources towards defining myself through the lens of this illusion?

Who AM I and what do I want to DO – BE – spend my time on … if it is true that I AM perfect just as I AM, that I need to nothing to create success – that everything I need is already here. What AM I doing spending time, energy, resources to become something to BE someone?

Is it not a ‘lack mentality’ to strive to create more, more clients, more money flow, more time. What if we stopped, stepped back and allowed space – emptiness to redefine who, what and how we want to live in this world of illusion. Could we? Do we have the courage and the grit to allow emptiness and allow our cup to drain out and refill based on our absolute purity of who we are and want to BE and do in our lives. A big challenge because the fear of missing out demands our ego to fill the hours, the space, the void and keeps us trapped in duality … they cycles of wealth & poverty – love & hate – success & failure.

‘ As I sat on the rock overlooking the sea this morning I communicated with the Infinite Intelligence of ALL that I AM – I asked for guidance because I didn’t know who I was anymore, nothing about my work appealed to me, I felt somewhat lost. The answer I got: ‘Well done, it is when you don’t know who you are – that you get to find out who you really ARE – not based on the illusion of duality of striving for success, to BE someone – but the purity of soul, of heart, of YOU … go find out what and who you want to BE now without the illusion.’ …

TO BE CONTINUED as we explore what it is like to find the real YOU/Me and how to stand apart from the herd mentality to find that unique point of difference and actually BE HEARD.

What about ME?

It is ALL About You – You Matter


Have you ever woken up and suddenly it hit you – you have spent most of your life doing for others, what they wanted or needed and it feels as though no one is hearing you, seeing you or giving you what you need. Do you even know what you need or want?

You are not alone. As parents we tend to be so busy being busy that we are last on the long list of to do’s. Yes there is a lot to get done with busy lives, working, building a career or business being a parent that there is a tenancy to compartmentalize life just to manage. However, here is the kicker if you leave yourself last then you do become invisible, you do not get heard, and you certainly do not have the energy to revitalize yourself.

So STOP it! Stop putting everyone first. You are the most important person in your life and frankly if you do not put yourself first then you will begin to cease to exist – first energetically, then physically and if there is no you then there is no mother, no wife, husband, business partner.

Therefore it makes perfect sense to put yourself first. It is not about being selfish – or being a taker in life, it is none of those things. It is about self-care, taking care of yourself emotionally, mentally, physically, financially and absolutely reconnecting and strengthening your connection to the Divine Essence of who you are.

HOW you ask. How? when I don’t have time. Do a time declutter! Look at how, when and what you are doing with your time – pull out your diary and slot in an hour, just for you, at least once a week to begin with. Then go to the beach, go to your favorite cafe, have lunch with a friend – go buy yourself something beautiful – it is ALL about you. Take care of you and everything else blossoms .

It ALL begins with you – there is only one person who can give back to you completely, absolutely and authentically. Are you worth it?

Jan-Marie Brooke

Brilliant Life