All posts by Jan-Marie Brooke

About Jan-Marie Brooke

Jan-Marie is the author of seven books, the creator of the powerful ‘Freedom to BE’ program that releases emotional stress in (4) minutes and several mind-set changing courses. She writes about transforming your life with ease, so you can live brilliantly, doing what you love. She lives with her food-smooching cat at one of the most beautiful beaches on the Sunshine Coast of AU. www.livingbrilliantly.com.au Facebook: inspiredpublishing. Twitter: inspiredpub

What About Me?

What about Me?

Relationships are fascinating, awesome and exciting. However, they can be stressful when we do not understand the process. In early childhood, a child begins to form concepts of the people they want to spend time with. As the child moves into puberty, their concept broadens with more evolved ideas of friendship and what they want out of life, especially in relationships.

When we enter the realm of relationships, we imagine/dream of the person we wish to engage in a deeper more intimate relationship, based on our earlier experiences and societal images. The concept that we need to look for someone to be our other half, provides the biggest clue as to why relationships can be stressful. For example, if a person has issues around money, they may unconsciously look for someone who they think will be able to provide a stable financial base for them, yet not recognise their hidden agenda. Continue reading What About Me?

Integrity in Business

Integrity in Business

Doing business my way is important to me, as it will be for you.  However, at what cost … how much are we willing to sell our souls for money.  Do we self-talk and tell ourselves that charging high prices is about our self esteem.  That if we put ourselves out there with high-end prices that the world sees us as successful.

Is our success measured by how much money we have in the bank or the material things we can purchase?  Please understand I LOVE money and what it can do for me to brighten my day.  It gives me choices and I like that.  However, I have never been willing to sell my soul for it.  It is not what drives me.  I set up the group  ‘Inspired Heart Soul Entrepreneurs’ because I am passionate about quality of life … for our lives to be in balance and that means we need to have a good amount of money flowing in with ease. Continue reading Integrity in Business

Disappointment

‘Disappointment

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‘Freedom to Be’ program

All through life we have expectations, desires and dreams – is a part of who we are.  It is when those desires and dreams remain unfulfilled that we may experience disappointment. It may seem very innocuous, this disappointment, it is not – in fact it is deep and multilayered. The first time disappointment showed up for me I used this program to do a release; and I slept deeply for several hours, showing it was not a small issue. As we reach another holiday season, this disappointment can rise to the surface as a person looks around and realises that the ‘dream business goal’ – ‘dream relationship’ has not materialised …  and without warning sadness pops its head up.

We turn a look inward and wonder why. It does not take a lot for this to be triggered, it might be a Christmas card from someone telling you how fantastic their life has been, it might be there is not many family members to celebrate with.  It might be a chance remark of someone, even a post on social media.  It is often the most insignificant moments that trigger a feeling of sadness, yet it is more than likely a feeling of disappointment.

Layers of Disappointment

Looking under the layers of disappointment I have found regret; anger; extreme anger; intense anger; indescribable grief; emptiness; despair. ‘Why is this happening?’ ‘Why is this not working out for me?’ or ‘Why has everyone else got what I want?!’ In a nutshell – ENVY! And so it becomes clearer that although disappointment may seem a mild emotion, it has attached to it, some very deep emotions, and the root being envy.

There are many areas in life where there can be feelings of disappointment, in relationships and career in particular. Even body image may be a huge disappointment as the media paints such a different picture than is reality.  It is normal to feel disappointment. It is, however, helpful to understand that it is only the tip of the iceberg. Provided we seek to understand what motivates these feelings of disappointment, it is possible to use disappointment to our advantage.

When a person pays scant heed to this significant signpost, they are denying a powerful opportunity to heal deeper issues, which left unresolved, may present as a strong life challenge, usually at an inconvenient time. If there are no feelings of joy, it can be due to a strong expectation that doesn’t deliver. Disappointment is linked to egoistical will, which comes from a belief that everything should go our way. When it does not, it often triggers anger and frustration which is often directed towards another person.

Regret

Regret is closely related to disappointment and loss. It is the result of not letting go of disappointments in life. It is the feeling/belief that there will not be the same opportunity again. However, if disappointment is acknowledged and transmuted then regret does not manifest. Which then allows the space for more love, abundance and joy to flow forth into your life.

When a person feels disappointed, they may not recognise the strength of that feeling. When the emotion under the disappointment is released it is possible to regain a sense of joy, feel lighter and able to move forward, experiencing enchantment. Life is inter-connected via energy vibrations. Sadness and disappointment downgrade the vibration of attraction – therefore to experience a feeling of fulfilment and joy it is important to nip this feeling of sadness and disappointment as quickly as possible.

Freedom to BE program

The Release technique of this program will do that in four minutes. Emotion is energy in motion, if disappointment and sadness is up – then it is in-process of transmutation, provided you release it.  Ignore it and allow it to resettle and it will come up at another time to be healed.  My motto is – much better out and healed than ignored and shoved down.

Transforming Disappointment into Enchantment

… A child views life through the eyes of enchantment, joy and wonder and unfortunately as we grow older, people and painful events can shatter this joy and innocence. Disenchantment and disappointment seeps in without our conscious awareness until it has accumulated to a point that it gets our attention. To ‘consciously’ view life through lens of enchantment and joy laced with gratitude is the key to changing the vibration that surrounds you.

Drawing this Transformation Accelerator means you are ready to move on with your life, letting go of the disappointments and regrets. Life is a journey; not everything we take on will come to fruition, nor will every relationship we enter into be long lasting. What is important is … what did you learn from the relationship? Did you grow, did you have fun?

When we release the grief of the disappointments we can look back and recognise the positive qualities of the experience and realise how much we have grown from the experience. Let go and pat yourself on the back for the growth experience it was and find those things that you can be grateful for. Life through the lens of enchantment is brighter, more fun and is expansive and when we feel expansive it is because our hearts are open to receive. It is all about vibration – when we feel happy on the inside … our world reconfigures and smiles back at us.

This definition of the Transformation Accelerator is from the ‘Freedom to BE’ program which releases emotional stress in (4) minutes.  You will find more information on http://brilliantlifesuccess.com/freedom-to-be.  Or if you would like a one-on-one session with Jan-Marie – just message me.

Emotional Overwhelm

Emotional Overwhelm

Have you ever felt overwhelmed emotionally and didn’t have a clue what was really creating this feeling or how to transform it quickly.

When my marriage ended I was completely and utterly swamped with emotions.  One letter in the mail telling me my marriage was over and it was not-negotiable, turned my world upside down.  I was in shock, anger, grief all at the same time.  Not only that, every person in my life walked out of my life at that point, I lost my business, my income, my home, friends and family all within a month.  There was nothing left except my son and cat who hid in the laundry of our rented place, for 12 months.  It was like I woke up on a distant galaxy alone and in shock.  There were not enough counsellors or therapists who had enough appointments in the whole of the land to cope with what I was experiencing.  I literally just wanted the earth to open up and swallow me, as I honestly thought I would never ever return from this level of devastation. Continue reading Emotional Overwhelm

Discipline is it your Friend?

Discipline is it your Friend?

sunI have a confession to make – in my program ‘Freedom to BE’ which has about 200 Transformation Accelerators each time I pulled the one that said the issue was Discipline – I wanted to walk away and ignore it (well mostly I did).  You see it annoyed me to think  that my lack of marketing success was about discipline.  I really wanted it to be something different, because for me the word discipline had all the hallmarks of control.  Putting me into a box and I wanted to be free-flowing.  Most of all I wanted to be free to do what I wanted when I wanted.  Except my Higher Intelligence kept shoving this Transformation Accelerator in my face trying to get my attention, like some pesky annoying fly. Continue reading Discipline is it your Friend?

‪It’s time to SHINE

It’s Time to SHINE – Are you Ready I know I AM.
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2015 came speeding around the corner surprising many, including me.  Long-held dreams became unfolding fast and with ease.  Heart-Soul Entrepreneur’s stepped up and opened the doors to their wisdom … reached out to others to support, honour and acknowledge.

I personally left the drabness of 2014 – opened my heart to even greater depths and acknowledged I had lost my business mojo.  One word, just one word changed my life.  It was the word Vitality (I have written about this before) but honestly who would have thought one word could literally shoot you down a pathway of such rich vibrancy that my head is still spinning.  As I acknowledged I was not feel the vitality of life I heard … Continue reading ‪It’s time to SHINE

Life Long Dreams – a Fable:

  Life Long Dreams – a Fable:

Its never to late for Dreams

“Like a true nature’s child, we were born, born to be wild..Senior Woman Riding a Motorcycle – Image by © Creasource/Corbis –

Life Long Dreams  – A Fable

Mary, Ethel and Rosemary looked at each other in excitement, today was the long awaited day when they set of on an adventure of a life time.  They had spent months at motor bike school, learning to ride.  Although they were the most mature of all the students, each had passed with flying colours and now held in their weathered hands, bright shinny new motor bike licences. Continue reading Life Long Dreams – a Fable:

Authenticity or Plagiarism

Authenticity or Plagiarism  Plagerism or Authencity

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As we desire to become more authentic there are many areas that need transformation.  In the beginning we are more than happy if we can just begin to understand what makes us tick.  It is as though someone took off the lid and we have the ability to peep into the secret lives of ourselves.  When I first wrote ‘When Love Walks out the Door’, the night I posted all the discs off to the printer I sat down with a thump, it finally hit me what I had done.  I had just sent off to Australia’s largest printer, a book that included some very intimate aspects of my life.  I felt a wave of heat sweep me as I thought “Oh my!  What have I done…now everyone will know everything about me”… And as though wrapped into a cocoon of deep enveloping love I heard the words …”Dear one, it needs for someone to open the door of who they are to give others permission to open the door of their own lives so that all may heal”

 HEALING

We do not feel so alone when we know others are experiencing what we are feeling or experiencing, as it provides a sense of safety, allowing us to be vulnerable … in that vulnerability we are more prepared to open up.  In the opening up of our deepest feelings, fears and dreams we give ourselves permission to begin the process of embracing our Authentic Selves.

This journey of healing is unique as we each have different components that have made up our particular journey.  Although each story may have its unique blend of ingredients it does come down to some very basic components.

THE DESIRE TO BE LOVED

Each one of us desires to be loved, accepted and to live the life that we dream of.  Each one of us is doing the very best we can with what we have at our disposal at the time.  Each one of us in our very private moments believes that we are not good enough, smart enough, loveable enough or worthy enough to be the person we instinctively aspire to.

 We are surrounded by a society who at every level, reinforces that in some way we have not made the grade because we are less than perfect … day after day we are fed a diet of the importance of being slim, healthy, rich and successful and if you are not in a relationship then you must be defective.  Add to the equation news bulletins blasting out from every TV and radio that tell stories full of blame, hate and revenge, power and control games with mass destruction.  No wonder we are confused, it is in some ways a miracle that we can tap into the secret parts of ourselves to find our Authentic Selves.

Although it may be confusing we are indeed making progress, and in that progress there will be many interesting challenges that provide us with remarkable learning curves.

This blog is about creation through our own creative thought.  As we are challenged to move deeper into our hearts to clear the layers of debris that have held us prisoner of wounding, we begin to tap into our pure creative energy.  Pure creative energy comes from deep within the core of our hearts.  When we are challenged, stressed or in pain and anger it is because we have moved out of our heart space.  We have moved into imbalance and in that imbalance we move into blame, judgement and intolerance.  Our attention is caught by some action of another and so it is with me this moment.

I had a vision of what my next step was to be, and as a part of that vision it was about a group of people who could work together as individuals, however come together as a team, supporting each other’s unique talents and gifts and at the same time staying in integrity by honouring each persons unique contribution to create an evening of healing the heart through music, song, colour, vibrancy and profound energy and of course the Transformation Accelerators from the’ Living Brilliantly’ program.

Now anyone who has worked with a group knows that it can be challenging to get everyone to put aside their own ego to allow a true heart space to create from the heart in its purest form.  The launch of the ‘Living Brilliantly’ program had been one such event, each person coming together to create a night of magic where no one was considered more than the other.  It was a joy to be a part of such an event.

The Vision

The vision was to build upon that experience and to take it out further into the world to give others the experience of fun, colour, joy and healing in a simplistic and heart rejoicing way.  Except there was a challenge emerging!  Without going into the challenge I will talk instead of the learning curve presented.  It comes down to ‘where’ we gather our creative thoughts from.  With so much simulation around us it can be difficult not to pull into our own creative solutions the creative input of another.  It more blatant terms it is called plagiarism.  However as humans are so good at lying to themselves it is often considered just borrowing someone else’s creative thought.  As previously mentioned it has been a significant move forward to even have had the courage to look into the secret parts of Self, however now we are being asked to detach ourselves sufficiently so that we can differentiate between our own creative thoughts and the borrowing of others.

It all began with a recent visit to my printers office and he asked me if I had a Accelerator for ‘Evil’ … my printer is a fun guy and I just laughed and asked him why did he need a Transformation Accelerator for evil, he replied ‘I had this idea and so I called in someone to execute the idea and his price was a bit higher than I considered acceptable, so I declined his services only to find this morning that he had completely taken my concept as his own and was now marketing it’ …so I thought I would send him an evil card”…

I didn’t think much more of the situation until I was confronted with the same learning curve.  My first reaction was of outrage and amazement that the other person could be so completely in denial that they could not see the inappropriateness of their action…

The Transformation Accelerator for ‘Releasing Denial’ is also about Truth and Integrity as it adds a deeper dimension to the healing process.  Not only are we healing denial we are healing our issues around denying our own truth and integrity and by releasing the blocks/wounds of denial, truth and integrity we are truly creating the life we want.

The incident was on my mind in the wee hours and as I allowed the thoughts to run through my mind I realized how many times this in the past had I done the very same thing, without understanding how important it is to the journey of embracing our Authentic Selves.  When we borrow ‘creative thought’ from another person we are not in our integrity.  We are taking someone else’s intellectual copyright and that is the same as stealing.  If we are stealing then we are not in integrity to ourselves and therefore we are not truly in our hearts and this prevents us from embracing our Authentic Selves.

There is so much talk of coming from the heart, however there are many layers to this process and it will take us on many an interesting and convoluted journey until we understand the simplicity of it all. Unfortunately because of its convoluted maze it doesn’t seem at all simple.

How can we make it simple so we can get it, integrate it and heal this aspect of self.  I believe it comes down to honouring others and not feeling threatened by their accomplishments, no matter what they are. If we are feeling in any way reactive to the actions of someone, then the issues is with ourselves.  It means that at some level within us we are in denial and therefore we are not in truth and integrity to ourselves.

When we borrow another’s creative thought we are sending a message to ourselves that.  ‘I am not able to create this myself, therefore the other person must be more important, more creative and better than I am’.  Yet we are all capable of creating our own unique blend of creation.  In the beginning of any endeavour it is quite customary to copy from another, however, just how long do we keep up this practice?  When does it move from a learning transition to plagiarism?   It is quite normal to quote from another’s words provided there is a bibliography provided giving credit to the author’s and publisher’s works. When copying an artwork provided you do not sign the front of the artwork and only place your signature at the back that is acceptable.

When it comes to another person’s ideas  – that appears to become more of a grey area, except it is not, we all know deep within when we borrow another person’s ideas and execute them as our own, well most of us do I am sure.  Therefore it is simple, all we need to do is give that person the credit for creating the original idea.  Speak to them and ask them if it is okay to use their ideas provided you give them credit.  If you can’t speak to them directly then give written or spoken credit.  What is not okay is when we borrow another person’s original ideas and then pretend to everyone else that it is our original idea.  That is out of integrity to self and to the person to whom the concept was borrowed from.   We are being asked to fine tune our integrity issues.

I attracted into my space the experience of another being in denial of their lack of integrity because I have also been out of integrity to myself.  I may not have been acting out the same scenario at this point, however in the past I have and it simply means that now I am ready to own my part in a prior experience.  As I accept this aspect of myself and heal that, I can move forward more heart centered and therefore more in touch with my Authentic Self.

To go forward in the joy and love of self we cannot lie to ourselves about anything.  The moment we lie to ourselves or to another we are not in truth or in integrity and therefore we are not honouring the other person or our authentic selves.

It may seem such a simple issue, to borrow another’s creative thought, it is not.  It is the core of who we are as humans.  As pure creative thought comes from a pure healed heart it represents a healed humanity (if we can get the concept).  When we are ‘in the moment’ creating an artwork, music even cooking a sumptuous meal, whatever, we have moved all our judgments, fears and feelings of not good enough aside to allow the flow of pure creative energy to come through us.  At that moment we are truly in our heart space, we are honouring our unique gifts in allowing them to come through unimpeded.  To have a nation of people who are able to stay in that space of pure creative thought and action is a nation of souls who are embracing their Authentic Selves in egoless creation.  It is therefore important to understand the difference between of our own unique creative thought and creation and when we borrow someone else’s creative thought and take ownership as though it was our own.  Subtle but huge!

Although these experiences can be challenging it has been about laying down of the foundation for some very powerful work to come into concrete form.  As a humanity we have now come to a point where we can embrace the need to let go of our own particular stories and accept that each story comes down to a few base emotions, when we work with those base emotions the story loses its intensity.  We are truly moving into simplistic ways of healing. The Transformation Accelerators allow us to clear the issues before they become life challenges … this allows us time and energy to pursue our dreams.

 We are allowing the Higher Principals of healing to emerge into manifestation ~       We are embracing our Authentic Selves.

Heart ‘n Soul Entrepreneurs #2

Heart ‘n Soul Entrepreneur #2

Healing the Heart of Your Business

It would seem my latest blog has caused some interesting comments.  The one below  caught my eye –

 … Your latest blog is so on track!  It’s become an industry full of false hope and pocket lining designed to lure in souls of lower vibration who are non actualised in consciousness. I’ve seen this breed in action and surprise, surprise!! Their mind is always on the go, they multitask all day long, lack quality rest and sleep because they are working on the next business plan or mocking up a new course to promote!! One particular person I know even forgets to pay for the meal they eat when dining out because their mind is racing to the next venture, next location meeting or free consultation to win a sale! I’m not suggesting that there aren’t genuine healers out there because there are … But surely they are few and probably charge reasonably….

Above all else Heart ‘n Soul entrepreneurs need to be integrity.  It is an expectation that if someone is claiming to come from their heart then they are in integrity and can be trusted.  For this section of the community, (especially in business) it is important that this category needs to be even more vigilant about integrity because it affects the whole. Continue reading Heart ‘n Soul Entrepreneurs #2

Are you a Heart ‘n Soul Entrepreneur?

Are you a Heart ‘n Soul Entrepreneur?
Heart 'n Soul Entrepreneurs changing business
Heart ‘n Soul Entrepreneur changing Business one Heart at a Time.

I have been challenged around writing this next blog post – in fact I have fallen behind.  Yet I know if it is not flowing it is because all the information is not downloaded and ready to be seen.  This year has already been amazing!

In January 2015 there was a huge shift in energy around business.  To recap:  In 2014 I lost my business mojo … my passion for what I do because no matter what I did people could not ‘hear’ what I did. There were a few reasons for this. To me I felt I had lost my passion, and someone said to me that the word passion was Christ on the Cross – so I went looking for another word to describe that feeling/expression.  I came up with vitality … and as I tapped into the energy around that word I heard ‘UnLeash the Colour in YOU’. Continue reading Are you a Heart ‘n Soul Entrepreneur?