Who AM I -Without my work

Who AM I – withOUT my work, if I am no longer a Mum, Wife, Sister or even a friend or work colleague? If I am none of these things who AM I? Who do I want to BE – when I don’t have to give my time, energy & resources towards defining myself through the lens of this illusion?

Who AM I and what do I want to DO – BE – spend my time on … if it is true that I AM perfect just as I AM, that I need to nothing to create success – that everything I need is already here. What AM I doing spending time, energy, resources to become something to BE someone?

Is it not a ‘lack mentality’ to strive to create more, more clients, more money flow, more time. What if we stopped, stepped back and allowed space – emptiness to redefine who, what and how we want to live in this world of illusion. Could we? Do we have the courage and the grit to allow emptiness and allow our cup to drain out and refill based on our absolute purity of who we are and want to BE and do in our lives. A big challenge because the fear of missing out demands our ego to fill the hours, the space, the void and keeps us trapped in duality … they cycles of wealth & poverty – love & hate – success & failure.

‘ As I sat on the rock overlooking the sea this morning I communicated with the Infinite Intelligence of ALL that I AM – I asked for guidance because I didn’t know who I was anymore, nothing about my work appealed to me, I felt somewhat lost. The answer I got: ‘Well done, it is when you don’t know who you are – that you get to find out who you really ARE – not based on the illusion of duality of striving for success, to BE someone – but the purity of soul, of heart, of YOU … go find out what and who you want to BE now without the illusion.’ …

TO BE CONTINUED as we explore what it is like to find the real YOU/Me and how to stand apart from the herd mentality to find that unique point of difference and actually BE HEARD.

Drilling down

On the journey to find out WHO I AM if I am not my work, I am not a mother, wife, friend or business colleague … takes looking a little deeper. For that I went to my Freedom to BE program and asked to be shown what the core issue was … and it came up Lonlieness. Oh of course we become attached to your job or our identity via a job or business. We become attached to being a wife or husband, friend and so on. We do so because what we fear most is to be alone … so we avoid this by being ‘someone’

What about ME?

It is ALL About You – You Matter

WHAT ABOUT ME?

Have you ever woken up and suddenly it hit you – you have spent most of your life doing for others, what they wanted or needed and it feels as though no one is hearing you, seeing you or giving you what you need. Do you even know what you need or want?

You are not alone. As parents we tend to be so busy being busy that we are last on the long list of to do’s. Yes there is a lot to get done with busy lives, working, building a career or business being a parent that there is a tenancy to compartmentalize life just to manage. However, here is the kicker if you leave yourself last then you do become invisible, you do not get heard, and you certainly do not have the energy to revitalize yourself.

So STOP it! Stop putting everyone first. You are the most important person in your life and frankly if you do not put yourself first then you will begin to cease to exist – first energetically, then physically and if there is no you then there is no mother, no wife, husband, business partner.

Therefore it makes perfect sense to put yourself first. It is not about being selfish – or being a taker in life, it is none of those things. It is about self-care, taking care of yourself emotionally, mentally, physically, financially and absolutely reconnecting and strengthening your connection to the Divine Essence of who you are.

HOW you ask. How? when I don’t have time. Do a time declutter! Look at how, when and what you are doing with your time – pull out your diary and slot in an hour, just for you, at least once a week to begin with. Then go to the beach, go to your favorite cafe, have lunch with a friend – go buy yourself something beautiful – it is ALL about you. Take care of you and everything else blossoms .

It ALL begins with you – there is only one person who can give back to you completely, absolutely and authentically. Are you worth it?

Jan-Marie Brooke

Brilliant Life Success.com

Neuroplasticity: can you rewire your brain?

The ‘Freedom to BE’ program  is the Lazy Skunk way to rewire your brain – without the need to go into the story

Neuroplasticity: can you rewire your brain? – ABC Active Memory: Brain Training News    Neuroplasticity is more than just the latest brain-related buzzword. It’s a real concept, grounded in neuroscience research. We take a look at how neuroplasticity works, and consider how it’s possible to re-wire your brain – regardless of your age.

What does the word neuroplasticity actually mean?

Neuroplasticity is an umbrella term, commonly used to mean that the brain and nervous system is plastic (or malleable), and can be remodelled or ‘re-wired’ in response to experiences over a lifetime.

Your brain is made up of 100 billion or so neurons each making up to 10,000 connections, or synapses, with other neurons. Neurons communicate by sending chemical signals across the synapse, with neurotransmitter release determined by patterns of neural impulses.

Neural impulses code your thoughts, actions and experiences. But they’re not simply transmitted along hard-wired pathways in the brain; the same thoughts, actions and experiences continually reorganise the structure and function of pathways enabling your brain to respond efficiently and effectively to the world around you.

Because neuroplasticity research encompasses diverse fields including learning and memory, synaptic physiology, stem cell research, brain injury, psychotherapy, pharmacology, development and ageing, the way the term is used will differ depending on which neuroscientist you speak to, or whose book you read.

How do experiences rewire the brain?

Imagine you’ve started violin lessons. This intense learning experience requires a host of sensory, cognitive, and motor skills including reading music, translating it into sequential movements that in turn depend on auditory feedback, developing fine motor skills coupled with precise timing, memorising long musical passages, and so on. Research shows that musical training can result in neuroplasticity at many levels in the brain. 

When you first pick up the violin, you’re clumsy and make many mistakes. But within a few days of focussed practice, neural circuits in the part of your brain devoted to fingering the strings for example, will begin to fire repeatedly. The more often neurons the specific circuit fire, the stronger the synaptic connections become. This is the basis of the adage ‘neurons that fire together, wire together’. Researchers have documented in detail the electrical, chemical and structural changes that take place at synapses to amplify connection strength during learning.

With continued daily violin practice, you’ll become more proficient. Neurons in the circuits involved in recognising musical tones, for example, will begin proliferating their dendrites (the branched extensions that receive inputs) and extending their axons, interconnecting more distant neurons into rich, well-organised neural networks. Accompanying these brain changes will be more nimble playing, less mistakes and more enjoyment!

Over the course of a many years, you may become a virtuoso. A study of your brain will reveal an enlarged cortical ‘map’ of the fingers of the hand that you’ve used for the complex task of fingering the strings, while your opposite hand, which has the less dexterity-demanding task of bowing the strings, does not show an altered map. An imaging study of your brain will show greater grey matter volume in the auditory region of your cortex. Psychological testing will reveal your spatial, verbal, and mathematical performance, and your general IQ will be higher than non-musicians. And as you age, your brain will be less susceptible to age-related degeneration.

Neuroplasticity over the course of life.

Training induced plasticity (such as violin lessons) is not restricted to childhood. But what differs as a function of age is the ease at which plasticity occurs.  “During early childhood the plasticity switch is always ‘ON’, whereas in adults it’s usually ‘OFF’” explains Michael Merzenich, PhD, Emeritus Professor at the Keck Center for Integrative Neurosciences at the University of California.

Plasticity dials back ‘ON’ in adulthood when specific conditions that enable or trigger plasticity are met. “What recent research has shown is that under the right circumstances, the power of brain plasticity can help adults minds grow. Although certain brain machinery tends to decline with age, there are steps people can take to tap into plasticity and reinvigorate that machinery,” explains Merzenich. These circumstances include focused attention, determination, hard work and maintaining overall brain health.

Professor Tony Hannan, head of the Neural Plasticity group at the Florey Institute in Melbourne, agrees. “Discoveries in the field of neuroplasticity have implications for how each of us may protect our brain from the relentless weathering of ageing and disease. It’s known that lifestyle factors that are good for the body, such as regular physical exercise and a healthy diet, are also beneficial for the brain. And those who keep their brains stimulated with regular complex mental activities may also help delay onset of common brain diseases, such as Alzheimer’s and dementia”.

Neuroplasticity: can you rewire your brain? – ABC Active Memory: Brain Training News   

 Dr Sarah McKay is an Oxford-educated neuroscientist and science writer. She specialises in communicating neuroscience research in everyday language, and writes a brain and health blog.

 

 

Beyond 70 and still reaching for the Stars

Its never to late for DreamsSociety tends to label us according to our age.  We are told that at 18 you are now an adult.  We are told that when we reach 60 we are already winding down and getting ready to move into retirement mode.  Therefore when I reached 70 years it had come with a bit of anxiety that life was incredibly short and that I probably didn’t have many years left on this planet … and yet at the same time I was project managing a new build, doing all the painting inside and out, laying payers, creating gardens, building retaining walls and working like a trogon.  The two parts of me were at odds with each other.  Our conditioning was telling me that I was old and the real me was thinking I feel no different than I did when I was 20 or 50 I still wanted to achieve a successful business.  I still wanted to make a difference in this world.  I still wanted all the juicy aspects of life … in fact I just plain wanted to live brilliantly …

We are what we feel, what our mindset is and how we approach life in general.  There are days I want to shout to the world I AM ALIVE, see me ROAR  and I do 🙂 much to the amazement and perhaps annoyance of my immediate neighbours.  Do I care NO I just want to dance and sing at the top of my voice … so I do.

Indeed like many I have been through my own challenges – some doozies, where my life has been turned upside down. The absolute love of my life walked out of our 18 year marriage without a word, just a letter in the mail telling me our marriage was over and it was not negotiable (his words). To reaching an absolute high in my business and coming home and walking into the most horrendous 2 -1/2 years of intense bizarre bullying.  All due to someone trying to take my elderly (dementia ridden)  neighbour’s home and her money and I was trying to protect her.   I had never experienced such evil intent before, so it was a real challenging learning curve with huge deep healing that needed to occur for me to sell and move from that area at a time when the market was very slow and prices very deflated. At the completion of my healing,  I sold my home in .15 minutes with it not even listed on the market.

I move to the Sunshine coast and began building a new home.  My sweetest moment was my son telling me about his conversation with his father.  “I am helping mum move this weekend.”  Oh is she going into a retirement home (ex) …. ‘Oh NO! Dad she is building a new home.”  Love my son to bits.

Was it easy building a new home when the building industry deems a women on her own is fair game, let alone one who is in her late 60’s … and then building a Goddess Accommodation beside the existing home when she was 70 and not only having it built but actively participating in many aspects of the construction and building – it certainly raised a few eyebrows.  And yes they tried it on, but as I said I have developed a can do attitude to what I can achieve and I go for it – and I wasn’t above telling them to F###K off if they were negative and wouldn’t bring positive solutions to the table.

What I achieved with a secondary building on the same title, has never been done before here, so not only did I need to believe I could do it,  I had to prove (via a lot of research) that it could be done and then find trades who understood it could be done.

The point is that it doesn’t matter what chronological age you are – it is all about your mindset.  I fully intend living my highest potential (and encouraging others to do the same).  Imagine the combined power of HEART-WISDOM that mature people have – what could be achieved to transform our world.  A world who valued the older generation for their vast life experience – you cant buy that shit.  It is golden.

(c) 2016 Jan-Marie Brooke

Brilliant Life Success.com

What About Me?

What about Me?

Relationships are fascinating, awesome and exciting. However, they can be stressful when we do not understand the process. In early childhood, a child begins to form concepts of the people they want to spend time with. As the child moves into puberty, their concept broadens with more evolved ideas of friendship and what they want out of life, especially in relationships.

When we enter the realm of relationships, we imagine/dream of the person we wish to engage in a deeper more intimate relationship, based on our earlier experiences and societal images. The concept that we need to look for someone to be our other half, provides the biggest clue as to why relationships can be stressful. For example, if a person has issues around money, they may unconsciously look for someone who they think will be able to provide a stable financial base for them, yet not recognise their hidden agenda. Continue reading What About Me?

Integrity in Business

Integrity in Business

Doing business my way is important to me, as it will be for you.  However, at what cost … how much are we willing to sell our souls for money.  Do we self-talk and tell ourselves that charging high prices is about our self esteem.  That if we put ourselves out there with high-end prices that the world sees us as successful.

Is our success measured by how much money we have in the bank or the material things we can purchase?  Please understand I LOVE money and what it can do for me to brighten my day.  It gives me choices and I like that.  However, I have never been willing to sell my soul for it.  It is not what drives me.  I set up the group  ‘Inspired Heart Soul Entrepreneurs’ because I am passionate about quality of life … for our lives to be in balance and that means we need to have a good amount of money flowing in with ease. Continue reading Integrity in Business

Disappointment

‘Disappointment

Disappointment.101

‘Freedom to Be’ program

All through life we have expectations, desires and dreams – is a part of who we are.  It is when those desires and dreams remain unfulfilled that we may experience disappointment. It may seem very innocuous, this disappointment, it is not – in fact it is deep and multilayered. The first time disappointment showed up for me I used this program to do a release; and I slept deeply for several hours, showing it was not a small issue. As we reach another holiday season, this disappointment can rise to the surface as a person looks around and realises that the ‘dream business goal’ – ‘dream relationship’ has not materialised …  and without warning sadness pops its head up.

We turn a look inward and wonder why. It does not take a lot for this to be triggered, it might be a Christmas card from someone telling you how fantastic their life has been, it might be there is not many family members to celebrate with.  It might be a chance remark of someone, even a post on social media.  It is often the most insignificant moments that trigger a feeling of sadness, yet it is more than likely a feeling of disappointment.

Layers of Disappointment

Looking under the layers of disappointment I have found regret; anger; extreme anger; intense anger; indescribable grief; emptiness; despair. ‘Why is this happening?’ ‘Why is this not working out for me?’ or ‘Why has everyone else got what I want?!’ In a nutshell – ENVY! And so it becomes clearer that although disappointment may seem a mild emotion, it has attached to it, some very deep emotions, and the root being envy.

There are many areas in life where there can be feelings of disappointment, in relationships and career in particular. Even body image may be a huge disappointment as the media paints such a different picture than is reality.  It is normal to feel disappointment. It is, however, helpful to understand that it is only the tip of the iceberg. Provided we seek to understand what motivates these feelings of disappointment, it is possible to use disappointment to our advantage.

When a person pays scant heed to this significant signpost, they are denying a powerful opportunity to heal deeper issues, which left unresolved, may present as a strong life challenge, usually at an inconvenient time. If there are no feelings of joy, it can be due to a strong expectation that doesn’t deliver. Disappointment is linked to egoistical will, which comes from a belief that everything should go our way. When it does not, it often triggers anger and frustration which is often directed towards another person.

Regret

Regret is closely related to disappointment and loss. It is the result of not letting go of disappointments in life. It is the feeling/belief that there will not be the same opportunity again. However, if disappointment is acknowledged and transmuted then regret does not manifest. Which then allows the space for more love, abundance and joy to flow forth into your life.

When a person feels disappointed, they may not recognise the strength of that feeling. When the emotion under the disappointment is released it is possible to regain a sense of joy, feel lighter and able to move forward, experiencing enchantment. Life is inter-connected via energy vibrations. Sadness and disappointment downgrade the vibration of attraction – therefore to experience a feeling of fulfilment and joy it is important to nip this feeling of sadness and disappointment as quickly as possible.

Freedom to BE program

The Release technique of this program will do that in four minutes. Emotion is energy in motion, if disappointment and sadness is up – then it is in-process of transmutation, provided you release it.  Ignore it and allow it to resettle and it will come up at another time to be healed.  My motto is – much better out and healed than ignored and shoved down.

Transforming Disappointment into Enchantment

… A child views life through the eyes of enchantment, joy and wonder and unfortunately as we grow older, people and painful events can shatter this joy and innocence. Disenchantment and disappointment seeps in without our conscious awareness until it has accumulated to a point that it gets our attention. To ‘consciously’ view life through lens of enchantment and joy laced with gratitude is the key to changing the vibration that surrounds you.

Drawing this Transformation Accelerator means you are ready to move on with your life, letting go of the disappointments and regrets. Life is a journey; not everything we take on will come to fruition, nor will every relationship we enter into be long lasting. What is important is … what did you learn from the relationship? Did you grow, did you have fun?

When we release the grief of the disappointments we can look back and recognise the positive qualities of the experience and realise how much we have grown from the experience. Let go and pat yourself on the back for the growth experience it was and find those things that you can be grateful for. Life through the lens of enchantment is brighter, more fun and is expansive and when we feel expansive it is because our hearts are open to receive. It is all about vibration – when we feel happy on the inside … our world reconfigures and smiles back at us.

This definition of the Transformation Accelerator is from the ‘Freedom to BE’ program which releases emotional stress in (4) minutes.  You will find more information on http://brilliantlifesuccess.com/freedom-to-be.  Or if you would like a one-on-one session with Jan-Marie – just message me.

Emotional Overwhelm

Emotional Overwhelm

Have you ever felt overwhelmed emotionally and didn’t have a clue what was really creating this feeling or how to transform it quickly.

When my marriage ended I was completely and utterly swamped with emotions.  One letter in the mail telling me my marriage was over and it was not-negotiable, turned my world upside down.  I was in shock, anger, grief all at the same time.  Not only that, every person in my life walked out of my life at that point, I lost my business, my income, my home, friends and family all within a month.  There was nothing left except my son and cat who hid in the laundry of our rented place, for 12 months.  It was like I woke up on a distant galaxy alone and in shock.  There were not enough counsellors or therapists who had enough appointments in the whole of the land to cope with what I was experiencing.  I literally just wanted the earth to open up and swallow me, as I honestly thought I would never ever return from this level of devastation. Continue reading Emotional Overwhelm

Discipline is it your Friend?

Discipline is it your Friend?

sunI have a confession to make – in my program ‘Freedom to BE’ which has about 200 Transformation Accelerators each time I pulled the one that said the issue was Discipline – I wanted to walk away and ignore it (well mostly I did).  You see it annoyed me to think  that my lack of marketing success was about discipline.  I really wanted it to be something different, because for me the word discipline had all the hallmarks of control.  Putting me into a box and I wanted to be free-flowing.  Most of all I wanted to be free to do what I wanted when I wanted.  Except my Higher Intelligence kept shoving this Transformation Accelerator in my face trying to get my attention, like some pesky annoying fly. Continue reading Discipline is it your Friend?