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Disappointment

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All through life we have expectations, desires and dreams – is a part of who we are.  It is when those desires and dreams remain unfulfilled that we may experience disappointment. It may seem very innocuous, this disappointment, it is not – in fact it is deep and multilayered. The first time disappointment showed up for me I used this program to do a release; and I slept deeply for several hours, showing it was not a small issue. As we reach another holiday season, this disappointment can rise to the surface as a person looks around and realises that the ‘dream business goal’ – ‘dream relationship’ has not materialised …  and without warning sadness pops its head up.

We turn a look inward and wonder why. It does not take a lot for this to be triggered, it might be a Christmas card from someone telling you how fantastic their life has been, it might be there is not many family members to celebrate with.  It might be a chance remark of someone, even a post on social media.  It is often the most insignificant moments that trigger a feeling of sadness, yet it is more than likely a feeling of disappointment.

Layers of Disappointment

Looking under the layers of disappointment I have found regret; anger; extreme anger; intense anger; indescribable grief; emptiness; despair. ‘Why is this happening?’ ‘Why is this not working out for me?’ or ‘Why has everyone else got what I want?!’ In a nutshell – ENVY! And so it becomes clearer that although disappointment may seem a mild emotion, it has attached to it, some very deep emotions, and the root being envy.

There are many areas in life where there can be feelings of disappointment, in relationships and career in particular. Even body image may be a huge disappointment as the media paints such a different picture than is reality.  It is normal to feel disappointment. It is, however, helpful to understand that it is only the tip of the iceberg. Provided we seek to understand what motivates these feelings of disappointment, it is possible to use disappointment to our advantage.

When a person pays scant heed to this significant signpost, they are denying a powerful opportunity to heal deeper issues, which left unresolved, may present as a strong life challenge, usually at an inconvenient time. If there are no feelings of joy, it can be due to a strong expectation that doesn’t deliver. Disappointment is linked to egoistical will, which comes from a belief that everything should go our way. When it does not, it often triggers anger and frustration which is often directed towards another person.

Regret

Regret is closely related to disappointment and loss. It is the result of not letting go of disappointments in life. It is the feeling/belief that there will not be the same opportunity again. However, if disappointment is acknowledged and transmuted then regret does not manifest. Which then allows the space for more love, abundance and joy to flow forth into your life.

When a person feels disappointed, they may not recognise the strength of that feeling. When the emotion under the disappointment is released it is possible to regain a sense of joy, feel lighter and able to move forward, experiencing enchantment. Life is inter-connected via energy vibrations. Sadness and disappointment downgrade the vibration of attraction – therefore to experience a feeling of fulfilment and joy it is important to nip this feeling of sadness and disappointment as quickly as possible.

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The Release technique of this program will do that in four minutes. Emotion is energy in motion, if disappointment and sadness is up – then it is in-process of transmutation, provided you release it.  Ignore it and allow it to resettle and it will come up at another time to be healed.  My motto is – much better out and healed than ignored and shoved down.

Transforming Disappointment into Enchantment

… A child views life through the eyes of enchantment, joy and wonder and unfortunately as we grow older, people and painful events can shatter this joy and innocence. Disenchantment and disappointment seeps in without our conscious awareness until it has accumulated to a point that it gets our attention. To ‘consciously’ view life through lens of enchantment and joy laced with gratitude is the key to changing the vibration that surrounds you.

Drawing this Transformation Accelerator means you are ready to move on with your life, letting go of the disappointments and regrets. Life is a journey; not everything we take on will come to fruition, nor will every relationship we enter into be long lasting. What is important is … what did you learn from the relationship? Did you grow, did you have fun?

When we release the grief of the disappointments we can look back and recognise the positive qualities of the experience and realise how much we have grown from the experience. Let go and pat yourself on the back for the growth experience it was and find those things that you can be grateful for. Life through the lens of enchantment is brighter, more fun and is expansive and when we feel expansive it is because our hearts are open to receive. It is all about vibration – when we feel happy on the inside … our world reconfigures and smiles back at us.

This definition of the Transformation Accelerator is from the ‘Freedom to BE’ program which releases emotional stress in (4) minutes.  You will find more information on http://brilliantlifesuccess.com/freedom-to-be.  Or if you would like a one-on-one session with Jan-Marie – just message me.

Emotional Overwhelm

Emotional Overwhelm

Have you ever felt overwhelmed emotionally and didn’t have a clue what was really creating this feeling or how to transform it quickly.

When my marriage ended I was completely and utterly swamped with emotions.  One letter in the mail telling me my marriage was over and it was not-negotiable, turned my world upside down.  I was in shock, anger, grief all at the same time.  Not only that, every person in my life walked out of my life at that point, I lost my business, my income, my home, friends and family all within a month.  There was nothing left except my son and cat who hid in the laundry of our rented place, for 12 months.  It was like I woke up on a distant galaxy alone and in shock.  There were not enough counsellors or therapists who had enough appointments in the whole of the land to cope with what I was experiencing.  I literally just wanted the earth to open up and swallow me, as I honestly thought I would never ever return from this level of devastation. Continue reading Emotional Overwhelm

Discipline is it your Friend?

Discipline is it your Friend?

sunI have a confession to make – in my program ‘Freedom to BE’ which has about 200 Transformation Accelerators each time I pulled the one that said the issue was Discipline – I wanted to walk away and ignore it (well mostly I did).  You see it annoyed me to think  that my lack of marketing success was about discipline.  I really wanted it to be something different, because for me the word discipline had all the hallmarks of control.  Putting me into a box and I wanted to be free-flowing.  Most of all I wanted to be free to do what I wanted when I wanted.  Except my Higher Intelligence kept shoving this Transformation Accelerator in my face trying to get my attention, like some pesky annoying fly. Continue reading Discipline is it your Friend?

‪It’s time to SHINE

It’s Time to SHINE – Are you Ready I know I AM.
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2015 came speeding around the corner surprising many, including me.  Long-held dreams became unfolding fast and with ease.  Heart-Soul Entrepreneur’s stepped up and opened the doors to their wisdom … reached out to others to support, honour and acknowledge.

I personally left the drabness of 2014 – opened my heart to even greater depths and acknowledged I had lost my business mojo.  One word, just one word changed my life.  It was the word Vitality (I have written about this before) but honestly who would have thought one word could literally shoot you down a pathway of such rich vibrancy that my head is still spinning.  As I acknowledged I was not feel the vitality of life I heard … Continue reading ‪It’s time to SHINE

Manipulation & Control in Business

Manipulation & Control in Business.

Business Success Healing - Manipulation & Control

Is being genuinely supported, a challenge … especially in business. Does support come with a hidden agenda. If I do this for you then I ‘expect’ you to do that for me. Alternatively, if I give you ‘my time’ in any form – then I expect you will buy from me. In business the current flavour is to do free strategy sessions, however the agenda (most times) is to sell you into a high priced coaching programs – or some other form of high priced products. High prices does not always equal quality products. Continue reading Manipulation & Control in Business

Business ‘Success’ Healing

Business ‘Success’ Healing

Business SUCCESS Healing

Have you been challenged around Business Success

I thought I would show you how I approach Transformational Healing.

If you have been challenged around Business Success, Money and Relationships – it may be from a deep genetic memory.  Pushing forward, working hard to achieve success is often a pointer that there is something blocking you Shining, with ease. If you know you are hiding your brilliance then you might benefit from my experience.  I have been quite focused on re-launching my work after a break and it has been an interesting experience, as I watch and observe what is popping up for me to heal.  As I was writing the blogs on Denial, it came to my attention that I was in denial about how much I wanted to be successful.  This ‘denial’ had convinced me that wanted to retire and put my feet up.  Except that was a furphy. Continue reading Business ‘Success’ Healing

Conscious Communication – How important is it?

Conscious Communication – How important is it?

We we shove our emotions down and not transform them it creates conflict in communication.

The hidden side of energy that people perceive about you and make a judgement about you … before you even open your mouth.

Have you ever met someone you felt was “prickly”? Well they were. Unresolved emotional issues/beliefs  build up in the energy field preventing conscious communication.  They build up like little sharp points in the energy field and when your own energy field comes in contact with them, you feel a jab, like a needle jabbed into the skin. You may feel a reaction and step back, or even speak sharply to the other person, because even if they have not opened their mouths, you have perceived that you have just been attacked. Continue reading Conscious Communication – How important is it?

Is Self Denial – Sabotaging your Success

When we are in Self Denial we sabottage our Dreams and Our Success in Business Is Self-Denial sabotaging your Success

When we are in self-denial, especially around our business goals we are playing small. We are living life in mid-range neutral. Getting up to speed and then idling back into neutral again. Does this ring a bell?

Over the years of doing this myself, I had convinced myself that I was not really good at business. I was more of a creative sort, the writer, the creator of programs etc. Any excuse to gloss over what I was really in denial about. Continue reading Is Self Denial – Sabotaging your Success

No Clarity? What to do when there is none

 No Clarity? What to do when there is none.

No Clarity: Simplify, Identify, Transform and Live Brilliantly
No Clarity: Simplify, Identify, Transform and Live Brilliantly

Sometimes our heads are just so full of stuff that it blocks the ability to think clearly, so what is the best option when you just have got no more space in your head for thought to have room to fire inspiration.

The first thing I do is stop, begin to breathe deeply and allow my shoulders to relax I then allow my energy to flow from the top of my head (crown chakra) and flow up to the Universal Mind/Infinite Source.   I ‘still’ myself and allow myself to relax and let all those jumbled up thoughts  of  –  I have to do this and I have to do that, to flow out and away.  I then begin to sense a space in my thinking section of my brain  and that is when clarity returns. Continue reading No Clarity? What to do when there is none

Your Story – What is it Creating

Your Story – What is it Creating

More of what you Want  … Or less of what You Want.

Are you ready to stop hiding behind the tree and come out and Shine?

Imagine waking up each morning and knowing that your energy was clear and high and you could put 100% into positive actions to create the most awesome experience in that day. Yet it is a rare person who can really achieve this; oh, they will tell you they do because they are faking it till they make it, and there is nothing wrong with that. It is better than hiding in bed, exhausted and in despair that life is hard and everything is a struggle. Except, it is time to get real and instead of faking it, actually living it with ease.

Continue reading Your Story – What is it Creating