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Emotional Overwhelm

Emotional Overwhelm

Have you ever felt overwhelmed emotionally and didn’t have a clue what was really creating this feeling or how to transform it quickly.

When my marriage ended I was completely and utterly swamped with emotions.  One letter in the mail telling me my marriage was over and it was not-negotiable, turned my world upside down.  I was in shock, anger, grief all at the same time.  Not only that, every person in my life walked out of my life at that point, I lost my business, my income, my home, friends and family all within a month.  There was nothing left except my son and cat who hid in the laundry of our rented place, for 12 months.  It was like I woke up on a distant galaxy alone and in shock.  There were not enough counsellors or therapists who had enough appointments in the whole of the land to cope with what I was experiencing.  I literally just wanted the earth to open up and swallow me, as I honestly thought I would never ever return from this level of devastation. Continue reading Emotional Overwhelm

Authenticity or Plagiarism

Authenticity or Plagiarism  Plagerism or Authencity

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As we desire to become more authentic there are many areas that need transformation.  In the beginning we are more than happy if we can just begin to understand what makes us tick.  It is as though someone took off the lid and we have the ability to peep into the secret lives of ourselves.  When I first wrote ‘When Love Walks out the Door’, the night I posted all the discs off to the printer I sat down with a thump, it finally hit me what I had done.  I had just sent off to Australia’s largest printer, a book that included some very intimate aspects of my life.  I felt a wave of heat sweep me as I thought “Oh my!  What have I done…now everyone will know everything about me”… And as though wrapped into a cocoon of deep enveloping love I heard the words …”Dear one, it needs for someone to open the door of who they are to give others permission to open the door of their own lives so that all may heal”


We do not feel so alone when we know others are experiencing what we are feeling or experiencing, as it provides a sense of safety, allowing us to be vulnerable … in that vulnerability we are more prepared to open up.  In the opening up of our deepest feelings, fears and dreams we give ourselves permission to begin the process of embracing our Authentic Selves.

This journey of healing is unique as we each have different components that have made up our particular journey.  Although each story may have its unique blend of ingredients it does come down to some very basic components.


Each one of us desires to be loved, accepted and to live the life that we dream of.  Each one of us is doing the very best we can with what we have at our disposal at the time.  Each one of us in our very private moments believes that we are not good enough, smart enough, loveable enough or worthy enough to be the person we instinctively aspire to.

 We are surrounded by a society who at every level, reinforces that in some way we have not made the grade because we are less than perfect … day after day we are fed a diet of the importance of being slim, healthy, rich and successful and if you are not in a relationship then you must be defective.  Add to the equation news bulletins blasting out from every TV and radio that tell stories full of blame, hate and revenge, power and control games with mass destruction.  No wonder we are confused, it is in some ways a miracle that we can tap into the secret parts of ourselves to find our Authentic Selves.

Although it may be confusing we are indeed making progress, and in that progress there will be many interesting challenges that provide us with remarkable learning curves.

This blog is about creation through our own creative thought.  As we are challenged to move deeper into our hearts to clear the layers of debris that have held us prisoner of wounding, we begin to tap into our pure creative energy.  Pure creative energy comes from deep within the core of our hearts.  When we are challenged, stressed or in pain and anger it is because we have moved out of our heart space.  We have moved into imbalance and in that imbalance we move into blame, judgement and intolerance.  Our attention is caught by some action of another and so it is with me this moment.

I had a vision of what my next step was to be, and as a part of that vision it was about a group of people who could work together as individuals, however come together as a team, supporting each other’s unique talents and gifts and at the same time staying in integrity by honouring each persons unique contribution to create an evening of healing the heart through music, song, colour, vibrancy and profound energy and of course the Transformation Accelerators from the’ Living Brilliantly’ program.

Now anyone who has worked with a group knows that it can be challenging to get everyone to put aside their own ego to allow a true heart space to create from the heart in its purest form.  The launch of the ‘Living Brilliantly’ program had been one such event, each person coming together to create a night of magic where no one was considered more than the other.  It was a joy to be a part of such an event.

The Vision

The vision was to build upon that experience and to take it out further into the world to give others the experience of fun, colour, joy and healing in a simplistic and heart rejoicing way.  Except there was a challenge emerging!  Without going into the challenge I will talk instead of the learning curve presented.  It comes down to ‘where’ we gather our creative thoughts from.  With so much simulation around us it can be difficult not to pull into our own creative solutions the creative input of another.  It more blatant terms it is called plagiarism.  However as humans are so good at lying to themselves it is often considered just borrowing someone else’s creative thought.  As previously mentioned it has been a significant move forward to even have had the courage to look into the secret parts of Self, however now we are being asked to detach ourselves sufficiently so that we can differentiate between our own creative thoughts and the borrowing of others.

It all began with a recent visit to my printers office and he asked me if I had a Accelerator for ‘Evil’ … my printer is a fun guy and I just laughed and asked him why did he need a Transformation Accelerator for evil, he replied ‘I had this idea and so I called in someone to execute the idea and his price was a bit higher than I considered acceptable, so I declined his services only to find this morning that he had completely taken my concept as his own and was now marketing it’ …so I thought I would send him an evil card”…

I didn’t think much more of the situation until I was confronted with the same learning curve.  My first reaction was of outrage and amazement that the other person could be so completely in denial that they could not see the inappropriateness of their action…

The Transformation Accelerator for ‘Releasing Denial’ is also about Truth and Integrity as it adds a deeper dimension to the healing process.  Not only are we healing denial we are healing our issues around denying our own truth and integrity and by releasing the blocks/wounds of denial, truth and integrity we are truly creating the life we want.

The incident was on my mind in the wee hours and as I allowed the thoughts to run through my mind I realized how many times this in the past had I done the very same thing, without understanding how important it is to the journey of embracing our Authentic Selves.  When we borrow ‘creative thought’ from another person we are not in our integrity.  We are taking someone else’s intellectual copyright and that is the same as stealing.  If we are stealing then we are not in integrity to ourselves and therefore we are not truly in our hearts and this prevents us from embracing our Authentic Selves.

There is so much talk of coming from the heart, however there are many layers to this process and it will take us on many an interesting and convoluted journey until we understand the simplicity of it all. Unfortunately because of its convoluted maze it doesn’t seem at all simple.

How can we make it simple so we can get it, integrate it and heal this aspect of self.  I believe it comes down to honouring others and not feeling threatened by their accomplishments, no matter what they are. If we are feeling in any way reactive to the actions of someone, then the issues is with ourselves.  It means that at some level within us we are in denial and therefore we are not in truth and integrity to ourselves.

When we borrow another’s creative thought we are sending a message to ourselves that.  ‘I am not able to create this myself, therefore the other person must be more important, more creative and better than I am’.  Yet we are all capable of creating our own unique blend of creation.  In the beginning of any endeavour it is quite customary to copy from another, however, just how long do we keep up this practice?  When does it move from a learning transition to plagiarism?   It is quite normal to quote from another’s words provided there is a bibliography provided giving credit to the author’s and publisher’s works. When copying an artwork provided you do not sign the front of the artwork and only place your signature at the back that is acceptable.

When it comes to another person’s ideas  – that appears to become more of a grey area, except it is not, we all know deep within when we borrow another person’s ideas and execute them as our own, well most of us do I am sure.  Therefore it is simple, all we need to do is give that person the credit for creating the original idea.  Speak to them and ask them if it is okay to use their ideas provided you give them credit.  If you can’t speak to them directly then give written or spoken credit.  What is not okay is when we borrow another person’s original ideas and then pretend to everyone else that it is our original idea.  That is out of integrity to self and to the person to whom the concept was borrowed from.   We are being asked to fine tune our integrity issues.

I attracted into my space the experience of another being in denial of their lack of integrity because I have also been out of integrity to myself.  I may not have been acting out the same scenario at this point, however in the past I have and it simply means that now I am ready to own my part in a prior experience.  As I accept this aspect of myself and heal that, I can move forward more heart centered and therefore more in touch with my Authentic Self.

To go forward in the joy and love of self we cannot lie to ourselves about anything.  The moment we lie to ourselves or to another we are not in truth or in integrity and therefore we are not honouring the other person or our authentic selves.

It may seem such a simple issue, to borrow another’s creative thought, it is not.  It is the core of who we are as humans.  As pure creative thought comes from a pure healed heart it represents a healed humanity (if we can get the concept).  When we are ‘in the moment’ creating an artwork, music even cooking a sumptuous meal, whatever, we have moved all our judgments, fears and feelings of not good enough aside to allow the flow of pure creative energy to come through us.  At that moment we are truly in our heart space, we are honouring our unique gifts in allowing them to come through unimpeded.  To have a nation of people who are able to stay in that space of pure creative thought and action is a nation of souls who are embracing their Authentic Selves in egoless creation.  It is therefore important to understand the difference between of our own unique creative thought and creation and when we borrow someone else’s creative thought and take ownership as though it was our own.  Subtle but huge!

Although these experiences can be challenging it has been about laying down of the foundation for some very powerful work to come into concrete form.  As a humanity we have now come to a point where we can embrace the need to let go of our own particular stories and accept that each story comes down to a few base emotions, when we work with those base emotions the story loses its intensity.  We are truly moving into simplistic ways of healing. The Transformation Accelerators allow us to clear the issues before they become life challenges … this allows us time and energy to pursue our dreams.

 We are allowing the Higher Principals of healing to emerge into manifestation ~       We are embracing our Authentic Selves.

#Biz Tip 1- Put more Colour into your Business

# Biz Tip #- Put more Colour into Your Business

UnLeash the Vitality in Your BusinessUnleash the Vitality in YOUR BusinessHas your business world feel a bit lack lustre of late.  It could be that you are lacking vitality and the quickest way to instil vitality back into your business is through the use of colour.  That may sound a bit odd – it is not. Continue reading #Biz Tip 1- Put more Colour into your Business

Business ‘Success’ Healing

Business ‘Success’ Healing

Business SUCCESS Healing

Have you been challenged around Business Success

I thought I would show you how I approach Transformational Healing.

If you have been challenged around Business Success, Money and Relationships – it may be from a deep genetic memory.  Pushing forward, working hard to achieve success is often a pointer that there is something blocking you Shining, with ease. If you know you are hiding your brilliance then you might benefit from my experience.  I have been quite focused on re-launching my work after a break and it has been an interesting experience, as I watch and observe what is popping up for me to heal.  As I was writing the blogs on Denial, it came to my attention that I was in denial about how much I wanted to be successful.  This ‘denial’ had convinced me that wanted to retire and put my feet up.  Except that was a furphy. Continue reading Business ‘Success’ Healing

Keeping Sane and on Track

 Keeping Sane and On-Track

Living on Planet Earth comes with a complex set of rules, social implications and the need to have money to pay to live on our ‘spot’ on planet earth – and because we are human we come with a multitude of belief patterns, emotional reactions and dare I use the word ‘expectations’ of what we want to achieve, the lifestyle we want for ourselves. In my 28 years of specializing in transformational healing, many of my clients have complex sets of beliefs running their lives.  Maybe back in the 60’s it was simple.  Men went to work, the wife stayed home and looked after everyone.  Pretty much 9 – 5 or 7.30 – 3.30 am working existence.  There was less of everything so it was less stressful and it was easier to feel sane in our insanely busy world.

Continue reading Keeping Sane and on Track

Transformation – do you fear it?

Transformation – Do you Fear it?

Healed Heart versus Crisis

Heart resized

I began my journey of Transformation Healing around the same time I became interested in energy.  The two kinda went hand in hand due to the fact no-one puts a warning label on the practice of meditation and opening oneself to the Light.

In 1987 I attended an Esoteric Mystery School to learn about energy.  What appeared to be an exciting and riveting experience turned to be a life-changing event.  My 18 year marriage ended with a letter in the mail telling me it was over and it was not-negotiable.  No warning, just gone.

When faced with a huge life challenge, the only way is to move through it, and come out the other side (without leaving the planet) which can be a constant companion when deep, enormous truckloads of emotions hit the fan at the same time.   For me – I was alone, every single person in my life, both sides of the family walked away.  My son and I and the cat who hid in the laundry for 12 months, had to start from scratch.

The intensity of a life-challenge that hits from left field like this, comes because we were never taught to transform (what we were feeling) throughout our lives.  I certainly did not have any role models.  I had a father who was emotionally introverted and hit out in an abusive way to lift the intensity of what he felt.  My mother died when I was very young, so I didn’t know about nurture of self.  It was a perfect scenario for an emotionally needy person (me) to be pushed into finding out how to transform those intense feelings.  It was to lead me on an amazing journey … creating an intense need to support others going through the same experience.  What I found, was apparently it takes courage to face self – stripped to the core, bleeding, raw and vulnerable.  For me I had no choice, I either died or I dealt with it.  As everyone had gone … there was only me and my ‘Unseen’ teachers, healers and support crew who lovingly, gently wrapped their huge big arms/wings around me and held me tight.

It was ‘interesting’, and the sad part is – it doesn’t need to be this hard.  We make it hard cause we are afraid to open Pandora’s box for fear we will not survive.  Can you image what our emotional storage lockup looks like – years of suppressed crap?  Well think about a house that nothing, absolutely nothing is ever cleared, thrown out.  You know the ones, the hoarders of anything and everything.  Could you live in that house?  Probably not, very few could and yet this is what your Emotional Storage Lockup looks like if you never transform what feelings you have, what reactions, mindsets and behaviours that play out.  Or if you spend a lot of your time and energy projecting  outside of self.  And most people’s favourite – rushing here and there, spending, travelling, socializing, working their fingers to the bone – all in an attempt to run from what they may be feeling – well the ESL is huge 🙂 and don’t be fooled into thinking that no-one knows what you are suppressing – they do as I found out 🙂 reacting in some often very hurtful ways.

We are human and we are emotionally based – it is not rational to think that these emotions do not exist.  We honestly cannot live in the positive all of the time.  Life is light and dark, it is positive and it is negative, it is who we are as humans.  You cannot change emotional energy by thinking about it, you cannot change mindsets just with your mind – it requires an integration of energy for the transformation to complete itself.

What I found was that as I transformed my emotional energy so too did it change my mindsets and my behaviours which is why I am so passionate about people getting this.  Change the emotional energy and you change your life with EASE.  It doesn’t have to be hard or scary.  Mastering our emotional health is simply the same as attending to your physical health or brushing your teeth every morning and night.  The more you integrate into your daily routine the transformation of what you are feeling, reacting to – the more life flows with ease, the more your energy vibration increases and begins to MATCH that which you desire to create/manifest in life.

There is no fast-track way … it is a constant integration of living brilliantly via transformation of your emotional energy.  Learn to LOVE transformation it is you key to freedom.  It heals your heart at deep levels, it opens up doorways of opportunity with ease and grace.  It changes the struggle, the lack of joy, the lack of …. in simple and profound ways.  It is a way of life if you want to live brilliantly.

Lies to Hide Dishonest Behaviour

Lies to Hide Dishonest Behaviour

When I was a tiny tot of seven years my father beat me, based on his belief I had done something which I had not.  In fact, as my mother had just died, it was more about his grief and anger looking for a place to vent.  As it is with those who abuse, they seek to find the vulnerable to take out what they are feeling.  This was my first experience of Lies to hide dishonest behaviour.  It was not to be the last … as this was a wounding so deep that they only way it could be healed was for that experience to show up time and time again to get my attention.

Lies to hide dishonest behaviour began to get my attention and as I looked around I saw this play out again and again not just in my life but in just about everyone around me. Continue reading Lies to Hide Dishonest Behaviour